I’m going to stop writing in second-person, at least for this particular email. I want to thank everyone who has sent nice notes and text messages for the newsletter I had published, then had to unpublish. A couple of people had pointed out, rightfully, that me going into vivid detail about my sister’s assault and arrest on my mother probably wasn’t the smartest move in an active court case.
Hang in there, Ernie. We have been through some similar experiences and have gotten through it - you can too. Susan is an experienced Psych nurse and knows a lot about this subject including the legal end of things, plus has worked in nursing homes and has had to deal with aging parents too, so she may have good advice. If you ever want to talk, let me know.
I'm sure I'm like many of us who care about you, in that I'm at a loss for what to do. But one thing I will say is that it's vital you stop regularly and assess what _your_ needs are. You're the type of caring person who will worry about everyone else while running yourself into the ground. Please don't.
For one thing, you won't be any good to anyone else if you don't stay well. But more importantly, you shouldn't forget your duty to care for yourself. That needs to be your focus before you worry about others. I know the pain of seeing a loved one in distress all too well. I've dealt with loved ones with both physical and mental health challenges, and it can be crushing.
If it helps and there are things that you need to vent, please feel free. You know how to get me. Also, as someone who's dealt with family issues of all kinds, as well as being a lawyer for 28+ years, I might be a good sounding board. Happy to hop on Zoom with you, if that might help.
We absolutely don’t know each other, but I want to hug you so hard. This is all so difficult, for so many reasons, and you are doing so well handling things. There’s nothing smooth about it, and you just... do the best you can. I’m sorry it’s all come down so hard on you.
Hang in there, Ernie. We have been through some similar experiences and have gotten through it - you can too. Susan is an experienced Psych nurse and knows a lot about this subject including the legal end of things, plus has worked in nursing homes and has had to deal with aging parents too, so she may have good advice. If you ever want to talk, let me know.
I'm sure I'm like many of us who care about you, in that I'm at a loss for what to do. But one thing I will say is that it's vital you stop regularly and assess what _your_ needs are. You're the type of caring person who will worry about everyone else while running yourself into the ground. Please don't.
For one thing, you won't be any good to anyone else if you don't stay well. But more importantly, you shouldn't forget your duty to care for yourself. That needs to be your focus before you worry about others. I know the pain of seeing a loved one in distress all too well. I've dealt with loved ones with both physical and mental health challenges, and it can be crushing.
If it helps and there are things that you need to vent, please feel free. You know how to get me. Also, as someone who's dealt with family issues of all kinds, as well as being a lawyer for 28+ years, I might be a good sounding board. Happy to hop on Zoom with you, if that might help.
Please take care of Ernie! *hug*
We absolutely don’t know each other, but I want to hug you so hard. This is all so difficult, for so many reasons, and you are doing so well handling things. There’s nothing smooth about it, and you just... do the best you can. I’m sorry it’s all come down so hard on you.